When memory loss touches a family, even the simplest social moments can feel harder to come by. Stoughton’s Memory Café was created to meet that need, offering a warm, compassionate space for individuals with memory loss and their care partners to connect with others who understand.
Recreational Therapist Alayna Hoch, BHS, CTRS, who leads the monthly gatherings, explains it simply: “It’s a safe, engaging space where people can be together, share experiences, and know they’re not alone.”
What Happens at a Memory Café
The group meets once a month—usually on the first Tuesday—at the Bryant Center on the lower level of Stoughton Hospital. Each gathering begins with introductions, often through a light icebreaker activity. From there, participants and their care partners settle in over coffee, treats, and casual conversation.
Activities vary by season, which keeps things fresh without being overwhelming. Past sessions have included Christmas crafts, Halloween themes, and summer projects, all designed to spark creativity and conversation. Afterward, the time is left open for participants to share experiences or enjoy one another’s company.
Why It Matters
In just a year of leading the café, Hoch has witnessed firsthand how important this sense of connection can be. Participants often describe the café as their reason to get out of the house—a way to break free from the isolation that memory loss can bring. For care partners, it’s a chance to relax among others who share similar challenges, all without needing to explain every detail.
“I think it’s really heartwarming they feel comfortable enough to share those stories with each other because they know they have similar experiences,” offers Hoch. “They know that person will understand, and they know they won’t feel judged or misunderstood.”
Encouraging First Steps
For those who feel uncertain about attending, Hoch offers reassurance. There’s no expectation to share stories, no pressure to stay the whole time, and no need to commit long-term. Just showing up with a loved one can be the first step toward discovering a welcoming circle of support.
“I’m sure it’s scary going to a new place where you don’t know many people, or you don’t know anybody. It’s just you and your care partner. I would just say try it. It doesn’t hurt to try. You don’t have to share a story. You don’t have to talk,” she says. “We like to laugh, enjoy a cup of coffee.”
Joining the Café
While pre-registration isn’t required, Hoch encourages a quick call if possible—especially if a craft activity is planned—so supplies can be prepared. She emphasizes, however, that walk-ins are always welcome.
The café takes place in the Bryant Center at Stoughton Hospital, and those interested can reach Hoch directly at 608-873-2259.
